“5 foolproof strategies to make your man happy”
“56 hot sex suggestions”
“Providing him with the sex he desires”
eyeroll It’s difficult to ignore the magazine racks, snapchat stories, and internet viral articles about all you “need” to know about sex. But what if you don’t need to know all of that information? What if those “56 hot recommendations” aren’t the key to understanding and enjoying sex?
Here are six sex truths you won’t find in magazines but are 100% true:
- COMPATIBILITY INVOLVES MUCH MORE THAN SEX.
Many people believe that having sex with someone before marrying is required because you must be “sexually compatible.” However, compatibility is determined by factors other than sex; how your relationship functions emotionally, mentally, and spiritually will have a significant impact on how it functions sexually.
Our best advice is to see if you’re compatible in those three areas first, because sex can quickly obscure a relationship’s true health. Megan Good and Devon Franklin, actors and a couple, explain it perfectly:
- ONE PART OF A RELATIONSHIP IS SEX.
To reiterate point #1, a relationship is not solely centered on sex! And it’s not the only thing you have to give! All of those “Tips to delight your man” articles irritate us because of this… They imply that the best thing you have to offer is sex—good, “expert” sex.
One of the best things about not having sex is that you’ll know for sure that your partner loves you for so much more than your sexual abilities. And that’s insanely cool.
- SEX IS NOT AVAILABLE TO EVERYONE.
Although you may believe that having sex as a teenager is entirely natural, many teenagers do not.
According to the CDC, only about 38% of females in high school in the United States have had sexual intercourse…that means 62% haven’t! You’re in the minority if you don’t have sex. It’s perfectly normal not to.
- THE FORMATION OF PHYSICAL RELATIONSHIPS.
Huh? Let’s break it down: the physical aspects of our relationship naturally progress from one to the next (holding hands, making out, cuddling, etc.).
You may have found that simply kissing or holding hands becomes unnatural after a while.
This is because physical intimacy is meant to develop and increase over time, eventually leading to sex.
Set reasonable boundaries with plenty of freedom if you don’t want to have sex (NOT just “we can do everything physically except have sex.”)
- SEX HAS A LEARNING CURVE (AND COMMUNICATION ASSISTANCE)!
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So, surprise, sex isn’t always great for everyone. This is why communication is so crucial because it ensures that you and your partner can develop sexually together.
So, rather than “practicing” on a variety of individuals, select someone you can trust and work with to grow together in this area. Communication and understanding about your individual person inside a trusting relationship is what will make you the finest sexual partner (like marriage).
- SEX CAN CAUSE UNWANTED RESULTS
We’ve all heard of sexually transmitted diseases, and you’re probably saying to yourself, “Yes, yeah, blah, blah.” Most individuals are aware that STDs exist, but they believe they are uncommon…which they are not. Young individuals aged 15 to 24 accounted for half of the 20 million new STDs reported each year.
Even the use of condoms does not guarantee complete protection against STDs.
What is the best piece of advice? Get tested if you’ve been sexually active! It’s never too late to avoid catching an STD by being in a committed, mutually monogamous relationship (again… #marriage).
If you are unsure whether or not you want to have sex, don’t. You will not be sorry for waiting. IT’S NOT TOO LATE TO WAIT if you’ve had sex previously and learned the hard way that it can leave things vulnerable and complex.
In any case, we guarantee that when you’re with your forever person and eventually have sex after waiting, you’ll never feel like you’ve missed out. Promise.